"Children laughing, people passing, meeting smile after smile…
And on every street corner you'll hear, Silver bells, silver bells! It's Christmastime in the city."
Silver Bells is a fun Christmas tune that dials into the magic of spending time with others, watching the joy of the season light up the eyes of our children, as we decorate, shop, wrap, cook and bake. It's truly a wonderful time of year, however, if we aren't clear with our boundaries and intentions, with not other others, but with ourselves, we can find ourselves:
Raising your voice at the ones you love
Resenting the shopping, to-do lists, cooking, baking and gatherings.
Wholly healthy Christian moms will experience all of these emotions from time to time, however, she doesn't stay there and dwell on them. She uses the intensity of undesirable emotions as an opportunity to get curious about what's going on around her and inside of her. She takes inventory of who she has been spending time with, how much time she's been spending with them, what she's been eating, drinking and how much rest she has been getting.
WHCMoms use the amplified emotions as an opportunity to step back, take a breath and look up for help.
Hear me say this:
Just because the rest of the world embraces chaos, exhaustion and overspending this holiday and in holidays past, doesn't mean that you have to embrace it too.
Boundaries. They are so important and a gift to not only yourself but to everyone you encounter. I am not going to take a deep dive into boundaries here, but I do want to take moment to help you explore on a basic level.
The definition of boundaries is "a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line." Boundaries are:
Where you physically end and where another person begins
Where your feelings end and your limit for allowing others feelings to affect you begins
Where your yes meets your no
Where your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and values end and where others begin
During the Christmas season our boundaries can get a little blurred. We can over eat, not hydrate enough, to rest enough, over spend, over plan and over schedule. I can see your head nodding as you read this!
So what can you do to break up with the chaos, exhaustion and overspending this holiday and go against what the world is doing? I have a few tips to help you embrace the gift of boundaries:
G Give it to Him. We need God's help in this. When our boundaries get blurred it's because we are allowing the weakness of our flesh to enter in. We are weak and He is strong. Take your desire for strong boundries to the Lord and let Him guide your steps to establishing them.
I Inventory. Take inventory of your sleep, calendar, hydration, and what you are willing to say yes and no to.
F Follow the plan. After taking inventory, make a plan and stick to it. Honor your commitments to yourself and stick to your plans
T Talk about it. Clearly communicating your boundaries is critical part of making your boundaries remain strong. Communicate your boundaries to someone you trust so they can help you uphold them. Also, communicate your boundaries as it is appropriate, with your loved ones. It's not always helpful or productive to spell out everything about your boundaries. At times, you just need to demonstrate them.
S Savior & Simplify: remember he's the one we are celebrating this season, not the parties, plans or presents. Look at your list of things to do and find ways to simplify. If you need help with this, please let me know.
Following the GIFTS framework will get you off to a great start creating those boundaries needed for you to have an enjoyable, peaceful and more joy filled holiday, and yes, this isn't too good to be true!
If you feel like a Christmas Christ centered budget planner would be helpful for you, grab the Holly Jolly Christmas Budget by clicking here. If you are a Kindle Unlimited reader, this workbook IS included!
I would also like to encourage you to find some healthy Christian mama friends to spend time with this season. I have a couple of opportunities for you that I would love for you to join. On December 29th, I am co-hosting a time of REFRESHment at 8:30pm EST. We will be coming just as we are, yes, pajamas are allowed, to be in fellowship with one another and to pray together. Click here to get the zoom link.
Second, you are invited to a fun WHCM ball drop on 12/31 at 12 noon EST. During this event, we will be again, having some fellowship & fun as well as doing a count down of TEN really exciting announcements about Wholly Healthy Christian Moms, LLC which is operated by myself and my business partner, Andrea Anderson. You aren't going to want to miss this! Click here for the zoom link and get it on your calendar now!
I am so excited to walk with you out of 2021 and into 2022. It's going to be wonderful to see what God has in store for us on our journey to become wholly healthy for Him.
In His Mercy,